Another unexpected turn of events....

So Tommy got a call last night.... it was from Samantha's mother. Well that's weird b/c we haven't heard from her, her daughter or anyone in that family in almost 2 years! And it's kinda creepy to think that someone is out of your life and then realize you may have to worry about them again. I mean we have been over Samantha. She is buried and in the past for us. We are working on an adoption and a huge party which you know you are all invited to when it finally happens! It will be Rhiannon's second birthday! But ah, well you all know this already. Back to why she called.

Her father passed away. Yes, Rhiannon's great grandfather. And after much debating and talking by Tommy and myself we decided to go to the viewing as they are called down here. And then we also decided I should call Samantha's mother and talk to her. I mean I don't know her but what the hell. What could it hurt right? I don't know if she thought we would come or not but I informed her that we wanted to come. At first we thought it would be all five of us but with what is going on with Bill we are not taking Connor. And my mom offered to watch Alanna. So it will just be me, Rhiannon and Tommy. That's fine.

But me and her get to talking. And apparently just about everything that has gone on over the last 8 years(ya know including the pregnancy) Samantha has lied to her about. And I'm telling her um no, we never did that, no she never tried to do that, no that never happened, etc. And the whole conversation goes like that. Meanwhile somewhere in the middle of all this she informs me that she thought about fighting me for custody of my daughter. And I was a little surprised. I answered nicely but now that I think about it I realize that she didn't think it through. And she didn't think about the court system either. Why would she fight me? I have no legal right's to Rhiannon right now. Tommy does. All the fighting in the world would get her nowhere b/c I am the wrong person to fight. And even so, why would you want to fight her mother? I have never done anything to you. I have always taken care of Rhiannon. In fact while Samantha has been off avoiding parenthood like it's the bubonic plague I have been enjoying the pleasure of three beautiful children that I couldn't love more if I tried. I love them so much it hurts. Yes them frustrate me from time to time but what child doesn't frustrate their mommy sometimes?

So it got Tommy and I to thinking. If Samantha's mother wants any kind of relationship with Rhiannon or with us, which she said she did, then we need to set her straight. We needed to let her know what has really been going on the last 8 years. B/c we can't enter into a false situation with someone who may just decide that they are going to act on something that makes no sense. So tonight I sit down at my puter and start to type. I get 7 pages into a very informative letter. But to be honest some parts were kind of harsh and where it wasn't harsh it was kind of broken up and bounced around. Word craps out on me! I was pissed off! I told Tommy it was my draft but I didn't mean I wanted to erase it! Ok I had to start from scratch now.

I start over. And nine pages later I have what I think is a very informative yet honest letter from Tommy and I. We sat on the phone and worked through it together. Then I typed it up. It took me a long while but there were quite a few things that we felt that we needed to be clear on. Especially if we are building a relationship that has been built so far off of lies.

So we are hoping that after she sees what Rhiannon's life was like, from the view of her parents. The ones that have had to care from her from a baby.... that maybe she will see where things may have gone wrong. And maybe she can set the record straight on what we were told about her too. It's not like that lie didn't come full circle. But hey, we may find out it wasn't a lie. We don't know. It is worth the time to us to find out though. We are looking out for Rhiannon's best interests and the best interests of our whole family. And to do that we need to get to the bottom of all of this to start fresh otherwise, why bother, right??

So here's to hoping kids! Maybe we will gain a new person in our family or maybe this will be another mess to clean up. We shall see where this adventure takes us! But lets hope the adventure is worth our while! And for my childrens sake lets hope its low key. They have enough drama in their lives. If you know more, we'll chat.

Love and Hugs,
Chelley